![Hate: The Unlikely Ally In Early Divorce Recovery](https://images.podcastpage.io/fetch/https%3A%2F%2Fsites.podcastpage.io%2F65b58e062ee1c3e273aabca8%2Fmedia%2Fedb3f114aff920bc9ed2.jpg?w=1200)
While an ugly emotion, hatred often rears its head early in the divorce process—and for good reason. Hatred provides an emotional outlet for the searing pain, betrayal, and anger over a marriage's demise. It motivates you to actually go through with ending the relationship. Hatred strips away your rose-colored glasses, allowing you to separate from your idealized perception of your ex. It marks a shifting of perspective, letting go of who you thought your spouse was as you face this new reality. Though unhealthy long-term, some initial hatred can propel you into acceptance that the relationship has ended before you can heal.