In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Jon Levesque — a master community builder who grew the Microsoft Power Platform community from zero to over 2.2 MILLION members, built a 25,000-member developer network at DocuSign in just six months, and now connects nearly 1 million builders across 87 countries at OutSystems. 🌍
But here's why Jon is on a divorce recovery podcast: he's lived it. After his own divorce, his whole world collapsed — and he discovered the hard truth that every divorced man over 40 needs to hear: isolation is the enemy, and community is the cure. 💔➡️🤝
In this raw, practical conversation, Jon breaks down:
✅ Why solitude after divorce creates overthinking, self-blame, and unhealthy spiraling — and how to break the cycle
✅ The "House" framework 🏠 — why not everyone deserves access to every room of your life (and how boundaries protect your energy)
✅ The Fck Yes / Fck No rule for commitments — and why saying "fine" kept him trapped in his first marriage for 10 years
✅ Why "Why Not?" should be your answer to every adventure after divorce 🌊
✅ The one question that changes everything: "Is it working?"
✅ How to make ONE real friend when you feel like you have zero (it starts with creating the conditions, not hunting people down)
✅ Why you must become the doer — the guy who plans the Thursday night hangout — if you want deep friendships
✅ How to handle the fear of rejection by asking: "What's actually the worst that happens?"
✅ Why a community is NOT an audience — and how to stop performing and start connecting
✅ The "blank page" mindset: you don't have a shitty ending, you have a fresh start 📖✨
Whether you're freshly divorced, deep in the recovery trenches, or a man over 40 who realizes he has acquaintances but no real friends — this episode hands you a blueprint. 🔨
Jon's website: johnlevesque.com — find his book, socials, and everything about him there.
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💬 CALL TO ACTION: What's the ONE step you're taking this week to rebuild connection after divorce? Drop it in the comments below — your answer might be the push another man needs today. 👇 And if this episode hit home, share it with a brother who's sitting alone tonight.
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