Recognizing and dealing with the child in all of us during our divorce recovery - James Christens...
Don't Pick the Scab PodcastOctober 08, 202400:30:48

Recognizing and dealing with the child in all of us during our divorce recovery - James Christens...

In this episode, I interview James Christensen, a licensed marriage therapist, about divorce recovery and relationship repair. James comes at divorce recovery from a totally different approach than I’ve ever seen before.  He states men need to locate the pain they are feeling from the devastation of the divorce in a precise location on the body and work on that area.  Sometimes the out-of-control actions with our emotions are the result of our child-like impulses.  This podcast was definitely a heaping dose of new possibilities.  It was hard to gather my questions when I was still trying to process the answer he gave me to the previous one.  I feel that we only scratched the surface of the healing ways for you men over 40.  So, James will definitely be asked back.  Thanks James!



Takeaways:



-find where negative emotions are felt in the body to gain a better understanding of them


-focus on making requests instead of complaints to improve communication during divorce


-put in the work to develop emotional maturity and relationship skills for a satisfying marriage


-feel distress and provide self-comfort to overcome the survival instinct and move on from uncontrollable actions


-the spectrum of intimacy in communication


-leaving emotional maturity to your children is priceless


-write it down and wait until tomorrow


-complaining about the past can be harmful


-practice kindness to each other


-feel more do less






James M. Christensen LMFT  (https://jamesmchristensen.com/)







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