The book ‘ I Just Want This Done’ by Raiford Palmer, J.D. helps smart, successful people get divorced without losing their kids, money and minds. I was stoked to get him on the podcast and talk about his guide, his professional and personal take on divorce - especially from a man’s over 40 point of view. Having gone through a divorce himself, Raiford’s experience is backed by him walking the walk and talking the talk. For men over 40 struggling with their before, during and/or post-divorce - this is one of those podcasts you can’t go without listening to! Besides, it's funny until it happens to you - Dave Chappelle. That reference make the podcast rock even more!
Takeaways:
-divorce law has been using a meat ax instead of a scalpel
-you can’t fight the law of physics
-in a divorce, everyone is losing to some degree
-look before you leap
-kids always find out who the good guy is
-friends and family are you biggest cheerleaders
-get a consultation early with an attorney
-communicate effectively with your co-parent by following guidelines like being brief, informative, fair, and friendly (BIFF)
-signal to noise ratio, how much is static?
-divorce three times with no prenup
-get in a positive headspace and take time to heal
-take this opportunity to make yourself the best person you can be
-making memories with your kids
-take the long view and consider the cost-benefit analysis in all aspects of divorce, including financial, emotional, and career impact
-don’t shut down during your divorce
-keep on living
-seek professional help, such as a counselor or psychologist, to manage the emotional challenges of divorce
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